Sunday, May 22, 2011

Essay on BDSM Punishments

When one thinks of BDSM they may think of whips and chains. They may not think of the discipline aspect. A Master may have to discipline their pets/slaves and to do that they have several options that they may use. A Master may spank, ground, isolate, assign papers, lines,  give time outs, have the slave kneel on ice/rice/pebbles, control what the sub eats, where they sleep, where they sit, give a cold shower, speech restrictions and more as punishment.
    Discipline is a key element in BDSM relationships. In a way submissive are a lot like children and Masters/Mistresses are a lot like parents. Masters/Mistress need to correct the behavior that is not wanted. They do this because they love the sub and want them to be all that can be. There are different forms of punishment will very depending on the crime that was committed.
    One of the most basic punishments is grounding. One may be grounded from any number of things. One could be grounded from facebook, tv, computer, game systems, driving the car, going out with friends and so on. Grounding is one way that a Master/Mistress can make the sub realize that they broke a rule and need to think about what they did. It can be used to teach someone that they do not always need to be on facebook, the internet, watching tv, texting, or any other activity that distracts them from their tasks and place as a submissive.
    Isolation can be one of the most sever punishment that can be administered to a submissive. Although it may seem like a non harsh punishment but the effects of it can be devastating if not properly administered. To administer an isolation punishment one must place the sub in a room, preferably with nothing else in the room, and leave them alone. The sub should have nothing in the room to entertain themselves, or distract them from the fact that they are being punished. To avoid severe problems the sub should not be left in isolation for more than three days. Short term isolation can be an effective punishment but long term isolation can destroy a persons psyche.
    Time outs can be effected form of punishment. Just like a parent places a child in time out to attempt to diffuse the situation. A Master/Mistress can place a sub in a time out to try to diffuse a situation that could lead to a worse punishment. One min per the subs age is a good way to determine how long a sub needs to be in a time out. Time outs can be in the corner, on a chair in the living room, it could be a step on the stair case and sometimes can even be in a room alone. A time out can also be used before and after a spanking to allow the sub time to think about the upcoming punishment or the punishment that they just received and why they were spanked.
    Spankings are probably the most thought of punishment when one thinks of BDSM. Spankings can be given with a variety of different objects. A spanking could be a light or hard, the length of the spanking can be short or long depending on what the crime was. A spanking can be given with a paddle, wooden hairbrush, strap, twase, cane, single tale whip, a dragon tongue, flogger, or a belt.
Paddles can be made out of a variety of things, such as wood, lexan, plastic, leather, or fur. Wood paddles can be engraved with words or painted with pictures to remind the slave that it is a punishment paddle or even a play paddle. One can get a paddle with holes (pictured to the left) to increase the speed of the swat and increase the pain.   Lexan is a hard and practically unbreakable polycarbonate that hurts when smacked against the skin. A lexan paddle (pictured above) can be shaped like a square, an oval, and can have holes drilled into it to increase the strength of the swat and the sting that come with it. Plastic paddles are a lot like lexan but are less ridged.  They too can have holes drilled into them to increase the pain. A wooden hair brush is one that many people may remember from their childhood. The wooden brush is one of the most painful implements that can be used. Unless one is skilled in single tale (pictured right) and dragon tongue whips they should not be used on a sub. The danger of seriously hurting them is too likely to safely whip them unless one knows what they are doing. Floggers are a wonderful tool to use on the back as well as the rear end and legs of the sub. Spanking tools can always be dangerous if not used properly.
One punishment that is very hard for a sub is kneeling on rice, ice, or pebbles. If one kneels on uncooked rice for a long period of time it can cut into the knees and will cause a pain that will not go away for a while. It will remind the sub of the punishment and hopefully will remember not to act out again. Kneeling on ice is only advisable in short amounts. It will numb the knees and send a pain though the whole leg of the submissive. Pebbles feel much like rice but can cause more pain than the rice does. 
If a sub gets too mouthy or continues to speak out of turn a Master/Mistress can gag the sub. There are many different types of gags that one could use. There are breather ball gags, bit gags, O ring gags, penis gags, muzzles, inflatable gags, and versatile gags. A versatile gag has many attachments that one can buy such as; a dildo attachment, ash tray attachment, (pictured) toilet brush, boot brush, feather duster, toilet paper attachment, serving tray,(pictured) the “how may I help you” and the half moon bit gag.  Gags can be effective to teach a sub not to back talk or speak out of turn. The versatile gags can also be used to teach a sub that they are there to serve.
Some Owners choose to have their sub refrain from pleasuring themselves unless given permission. Sometimes a sub may find this hard and will break that rule over and over. If this is the case the Owner may place their sub in a chastity belt.(Pictured) This device can be locked in four places and prevents the sub or anyone else from gaining access to the subs gentiles. This device can be very frustrating for a sub who is use to receiving pleasure a lot. In the olden days men would place their daughters and wives in a chastity belt to prevent them from rape and infidelity while they went to war or when they would leave for months at a time.
    A Master/Mistress can control what food the sub does or does not eat. If a sub forgets to ask permission to eat their food an Owner can take away the privilege to eat food that tastes good. They can be restricted to eating only rice and oatmeal, or what ever the Owner decides is appropriate. If the sub bites the Owner they may be restricted to only liquid foods because they have shown that they cannot use their teeth for what they were meant to be used for. 
    An Owner may also decide that their sub needs to be punished by sleeping in a cage or on the floor.  Subs can be left in their cage for the night with nothing to do but think about why they are not allowed to sleep in the same bed and sometimes not even in the same room as their Owner. Cages come in all shapes and sizes. The most common cage is large dog crate. (Pictured) Cages like this can be locked to prevent the sub from getting out during the night. It is not suggested that one locks the sub in the cage unless they are a very light sleeper. It can be dangerous to keep the sub locked up with no way out.
    Another way that an Owner can punish their sub is with a speech restriction. Some Owners prefer to have their sub only speak when spoken to. However, some subs have the privilege to speak freely and having that taken away can be one of the most difficult things for a sub to deal with. Some subs have the gift of gab and love to speak with their owners and having that taken away can really make them think about what they did to be silenced.
    If a sub is being overly horney or isn’t listening to an Owner can make them take a cold shower to jolt them in to listening and stop them from begging for sex, at least for a while. If a sub uses all the hot water they can be punished with cold showers for a set amount of time. Doing this will remind the sub not to use all the hot water when they take a shower.
    For someone who hates to write lines and essays are a good form of punishment. They will make the sub think about the thing they did wrong and why they are being punished. Some littles will be given lines to make them remember what they did and to remind them not to do it again. A little/sub that bites their Owner may have to write “I will not bite” a set number of times. This punishment can be cuppled with any of the others but is usually the most effective when it is used with a spanking and corner time.
    Over all there are many punishments that can be used to correct a subs behavior. Some punishments can be made up on the spot. The punishment needs to fit the crime and the sub needs to truly be sorry for anything to work. Spanking, corner time, lines, essays, cold showers, loss of sleeping in bed, speaking, and eating are just a few of the many punishments that a sub can experience.





















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Serving Tray. Photograph. Web. 18 Apr. 2011. <http://stockroom.com/Serving-Tray-Attachment-P2451.aspx>.

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