Do you really mean it?

Some times you say things and I never know if I should be concerned. Things like pointing to the door or saying Im not collared yet...I mean...if you love me then why would you say or do something like that? Is it to make me hurt? Do you just not know how much that hurts me? What is it? What can I do to make you stop doing it? I need to be able to feel safe and secure...I need to know with out a doubt that you wont wake up and tell me that you want someone thats pretty, smart, sexy, and so on...I need to know with out a doubt that I mean something...that I didnt give up my family for nothing..because now that I have gone down this path I cant take it back.